Not What My Heart Was Yearning For

The Christian Self-Compassion Workbook for Women

(How to Beat Your Inner Critic and Give Yourself Grace)

Written by Kim Fredrickson

Published by Revell

Release Date: 06.23.26

Genre: Christian Nonfiction, Christian Personal Growth

2 Stars

I wanted to love this workbook. The subject matters to me because I do want to learn how not to be so hard on myself. I wanted help understanding how to respond to failure, weakness, shame, and discouragement in a way that is faithful to Scripture and rooted in the grace of Christ.

There were portions I appreciated. The author recognizes human limitations, acknowledges suffering, encourages rejecting harsh self-condemnation, and reminds readers that God gives gifts and uses His people to bless others. The workbook also includes practical exercises and compassionate language for those who struggle with negative self-talk.

However, I found myself deeply disappointed by the overall emphasis. The book is more focused on self-esteem and self-compassion than on Christ-centered grace. I kept longing for more Scripture, more gospel clarity, and more teaching on receiving the grace Jesus gives rather than learning how to give grace to myself.

That distinction matters to me.

I do not want to become my own comforter, my own best friend, or my own source of compassion. I want to be taught how to rest in the compassion of the Father, the finished work of Jesus, and the ministry of the Holy Spirit. I wanted this subject handled in a way that directed my heart, soul, and mind upward to Christ. Instead, I often felt directed inward toward myself.

I appreciate the author's desire to help hurting women, and I believe some readers may find helpful encouragement here. For me, though, this workbook was not what my heart was yearning for with this topic.

I received a paperback copy of this book from the publisher. I am not required to write a positive review nor paid to do so. This is my honest and unbiased review. My thoughts and opinions expressed in this book review are my own. My review focuses on the writing and the content, ensuring transparency and reliability.